Whether you're thinking about, going through, or recovering from divorce, you NEED some guidance. 

Get yourself some weekly support!

 

 

I’ve been through 3 painful divorces, and if I could go back and do it again (which I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemy) the one thing I now know that could have made a difference is this:

 

I wish I had had a divorce coach doingDivorce® with me.  


 

You see, divorce takes way longer than we want.  

 
 
  • Someone to help me think through different choices, look at options from different angles.  
     
  • Someone who kept me calm and optimistic, gave me empathy when I was freaking out, assured me I was going to be OKAY! It’s scary and it sucks stepping out on your own!
     
  • Someone who tethered me to my values, helped me be an astute client, kept me prepared and helped me create emotional safety while in the courtroom,  the attorney's or therapists' offices.  
 

 

Being prepared would have made a world of difference.But

When I looked around for support, I never felt understood or

accepted.  

I also felt judged, terribly ashamed like I was wearing a Scarlet D on my chest.

 

Others were completely and utterly at a loss. People on the outside looking in were unsure of how to help, they didn’t know what to say or how to respond to my emotionality.

 

I didn’t know

how to help them help me.  

 

There were times during these transitions when I experienced some of the loneliest moments of my entire life.  

 
 

As you read through the Scarlet D letters™ each week, I hope you see a bit of the future.  I’d like you to grasp what’s up ahead, to see where you could shift, to have permission to grow and permission to change. I hope you experience doingDivorce® feeling heard and understood.  

 
 

May your separation be the amazing experience it’s meant to be and your rite of passage, life affirming.