CAN I GET REAL? Divorcing can stink

it can be really, really difficult…

I call it a modern day rite of passage because it's one of those things that forces us to become who we’re meant to be.  As a result, you get to create what you want out of your future.  Every day, every moment even, you get to wake up and start anew.


It’ll take an amazing amount of courage and a willingness to become self-aware and a willingness to grow.  I want you to go to the mirror, bring me with you on your cell phone and ask yourself staring into your own eyes: are you willing to challenge yourself?


Wow, I can hear you now…

Challenging yourself in the midst of the anger and his blah, blah, blah and her yadda, yadda, yadda…. Yep, challenge yourself. This is what I advise:

  1. Decide to move on.
  2. Commit to making your life a success; making it great for you (or your kids, or you and your kids). Become inspired to be bigger and better than you’ve been yesterday, last week, or while you were in your relationship.
  3. Find a partner to think through what you need to do (news flash: this is not your attorney or your mom or your sister or even your best friend). Find a neutral, objective partner (okay, like me, like a Divorce Coach) and think through who you want to become and what kind of life you want to have.


You can do this alone at first...

But figure it out, imagine, get creative, get deeply personal and find someone who will hold you accountable.